Avoid Power Struggles
AVOID POWER STRUGGLES
Why should I do it?
- It is a quick method to de-escalate a student
- It keeps you in control
When should I do it?
- When student is trying to verbally engage you in an argument
How do I do it?
- This technique takes a lot of patience, support, self-control and self-talk
- Keep responses brief; avoid lecturing
- Try re-direction if student is able to be de-escalated
- Remove student from situation and discuss the issue after time to calm down
- Use reflective listening “I am hearing that you feel this assignment is unnecessary”
- Ask open ended questions
- Use body language that represents openness: If you are sitting, keep legs uncrossed and lean toward the person; If you are standing, keep arms uncrossed and legs open—people often mirror their emotional response with others’ body language
- Use humor and validate student’s feelings