HAVE A STUDENT SAY SOMETHING NICE
Why should I do it?
- Way of empowering the student
- Prevents power struggle
- Teaches correct and expected behaviors
- Teaches student problem solving skills
- Teaches empathy and compassion
- Provides a better alternative than punitive consequences
- Benefits and validates the victim
- Provides resolution to student conflicts
- Teaches students how to interact and socialize
When should I do it?
- When a student is reluctant to do something
- When a student says something that obviously upset another student significantly
- When a student makes a remark to another student without really knowing the significance of what they said or the word(s) they used
- When a student is bullying another student
- When a student has been disrespectful toward an adult
How do I do it?
- Speak in calm, neutral tone.
- Provide the student with choices
- For example. You can apologize to Johnny for calling him a name, or you will need to flip your card
- Have the student face the student they are apologizing to and look at them
- Have the student say specifically to the other student what they are sorry for
- Have the student say they will not do it again after apologizing
- Have the victim accept or not accept the apology verbally
- If the apology is not accepted, tell the child that is okay and it was good and right that they apologized and perhaps the other child will accept the apology later