Speak in a Calm and Neutral Tone
SPEAK IN A CALM AND NEUTRAL TONE
Why should I do it?
- It is a quick method to de-escalate a student
- It keeps you in a calm state of mind
- A student will take your lead in the way you speak
When should I do it?
- When you are processing a problem with a student
- When student is reluctant to follow your directives
- When student is trying to verbally engage you in an argument
How do I do it?
- This technique takes a lot of patience, support, self-control and self-talk
- Be aware of your own physiological cues to getting angry, annoyed, offended, disrespected and frustrated
- When you have those feelings/thoughts, say to yourself talk yourself out of losing your temper
- Use “I” statements, ie: “I would like for you to make a choice between doing your work at your desk or at another desk” Rather than “you need to make a choice now about where you are going to do your work”
- If possible, remove yourself from a tense situation before talking to the student to calm down
- Always provide consequences to students in the most non-emotional state possible.